In a world where weddings have become grand spectacles—with extravagant décor, designer lehengas, and diamond-studded rings that could rival a small fortune—there’s a harsh reality lurking behind the glitter. The more you spend on your wedding, the higher your chances of divorce.
It sounds almost counterintuitive. After all, if a couple is willing to shell out thousands (or lakhs) for the perfect wedding, doesn’t that signify commitment? Apparently not.
A recent study published in Economic Inquiry examined the spending habits of 3,151 married and divorced adults and uncovered an unsettling pattern: couples who spent between $2,000–$4,000 on an engagement ring were more likely to divorce than those who spent less. And it wasn’t just about the ring—higher wedding costs in general were also linked to shorter marriages.
So, what exactly is going wrong?
When “Bigger is Better” Becomes the Problem
Blame it on Bollywood or Instagram, but weddings today are no longer just about love—they’re a status symbol. The pressure to curate a picture-perfect celebration has made many couples (and their families) go overboard on spending, even when it isn’t financially feasible.
It starts with designer bridal couture, elaborate wedding destinations, and A-list photographers. Then comes the six-figure engagement ring, because, well, love should be measured in carats, right? Before they know it, the couple is knee-deep in wedding loans, credit card debt, and financial strain before even saying “I do.”
But the real problem begins after the wedding ends.
Love vs. Lifestyle: The Real Cost of Overspending
When the wedding frenzy fades and reality sets in, financial distress can quickly become a major stressor in a marriage. Studies show that money problems are one of the top reasons for divorce, and if a couple’s first major financial decision together was an extravagant, over-budget wedding, it sets a dangerous precedent.
Expensive weddings often stem from impulsivity, societal pressure, or an attempt to “prove” love—none of which are solid foundations for a lasting marriage. It’s not the grand gesture of a ₹10 lakh ring that sustains a relationship, but rather the small, consistent acts of love and respect.
So, Do Expensive Weddings Mean Doomed Marriages?
Not necessarily. A lavish wedding doesn’t guarantee divorce, just like a budget-friendly wedding doesn’t ensure lifelong happiness. However, research strongly suggests that couples who prioritize experiences, emotional compatibility, and financial stability over wedding-day extravagance tend to have longer-lasting marriages.
💡 A few takeaways from the study:
✔️ Couples who spent less than $1,000 on their engagement ring had lower divorce rates.
✔️ Costly weddings created financial stress, leading to conflicts post-marriage.
✔️ Those who prioritized experiences over material spending had stronger relationships.
At the end of the day, it’s not about how much you spend—it’s about what you invest in. Love flourishes in everyday moments, not just in a perfectly curated wedding album.
The Final Word: Say “I Do” to What Truly Matters
Weddings are magical, but they’re just one day—marriage is a lifetime. Instead of going into debt for a fairytale event, focus on building a partnership that lasts beyond the honeymoon phase.
Because when the last guest leaves, the floral arrangements wilt, and the Instagram hype fades, what remains isn’t the price tag—it’s the strength of the love you built. 💍✨
(A seasoned writer and marketing professional, Kiran Srinivasan dives into everything from travel and food to fashion, serving up fresh perspectives with a dash of style and flair)
